Be. Do. Have.

Feb 9, 2012 by benwhitehair    7 Comments    Posted under: Attitude, Thousands of Stories, Three Actors

Fill in the blank for me. Once I have _____, I will be happy. Are you sure that’s the thing? Pick wisely. Even pick a few things. Maybe once you have your own show, more money, a girlfriend, a puppy? Okay, final answer?

*Buzzer.* Wrong. The paradigm here is backwards, and as much as we think something external from us will increase our happiness level, that’s simply not the case.

So let’s flip this on it’s head. What happens when you’re happy, joyful, creative, grateful, etc.? How do you behave? In ways that lead to more happiness, exactly! You’re so smart. When you are living in your happy place, your actions are then in line with your vision and you move towards your goals. Then, from that place, you will manifest that golden retriever puppy you’ve always been wanting.

If you are familiar with the principles of the law of attraction then you might already be familiar with the Be. Do. Have. principle here. I was only recently introduced to this paradigm, though, and it has dramatically changed my life. As I mentioned in my my last blog post, as I’ve shifted my focus from the end results (not that I don’t still have very clear goals and visions in place) and onto my ways of being, the results have taken care of themselves.

Think of this analogy. Someone was recently complaining to me that they didn’t have a boyfriend, stating that if they did then they would be happy. Now, if you’re being a Debbie Downer all the time, depressed that no one likes you, who do you think you’re going to attract? Is that the type of person someone is going to want to date? I’m gonna say not so much. If, though, you focus on being a happy person, pursuing your passions, and manifesting joy, then people are going to be attracted to and want to be around you.

So whatever it is that you want, how would someone who already has that act and behave? How would someone getting paid $25,000/week on your favorite sitcom be? What about someone living in abundance? What about someone in a successful relationship? See what happens if you spend your next week focused on how you’re being, rather than the results you want.

Remember, we’re human beings, not human doings.

Ben Whitehair is the Los Angeles contingent of this blog. Find out more information and view his materials on his website, or read the rest of his blog posts.