Be. Do. Have.
Fill in the blank for me. Once I have _____, I will be happy. Are you sure that’s the thing? Pick wisely. Even pick a few things. Maybe once you have your own show, more money, a girlfriend, a puppy? Okay, final answer?
*Buzzer.* Wrong. The paradigm here is backwards, and as much as we think something external from us will increase our happiness level, that’s simply not the case.
So let’s flip this on it’s head. What happens when you’re happy, joyful, creative, grateful, etc.? How do you behave? In ways that lead to more happiness, exactly! You’re so smart. When you are living in your happy place, your actions are then in line with your vision and you move towards your goals. Then, from that place, you will manifest that golden retriever puppy you’ve always been wanting.
If you are familiar with the principles of the law of attraction then you might already be familiar with the Be. Do. Have. principle here. I was only recently introduced to this paradigm, though, and it has dramatically changed my life. As I mentioned in my my last blog post, as I’ve shifted my focus from the end results (not that I don’t still have very clear goals and visions in place) and onto my ways of being, the results have taken care of themselves.
Think of this analogy. Someone was recently complaining to me that they didn’t have a boyfriend, stating that if they did then they would be happy. Now, if you’re being a Debbie Downer all the time, depressed that no one likes you, who do you think you’re going to attract? Is that the type of person someone is going to want to date? I’m gonna say not so much. If, though, you focus on being a happy person, pursuing your passions, and manifesting joy, then people are going to be attracted to and want to be around you.
So whatever it is that you want, how would someone who already has that act and behave? How would someone getting paid $25,000/week on your favorite sitcom be? What about someone living in abundance? What about someone in a successful relationship? See what happens if you spend your next week focused on how you’re being, rather than the results you want.
Remember, we’re human beings, not human doings.
Ben Whitehair is the Los Angeles contingent of this blog. Find out more information and view his materials on his website, or read the rest of his blog posts.
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Great post, Ben! I also believe it’s all in the attitude. I noticed so many changes in my life when I learned about the law of attraction and I’m just simply happier and more relieved. Yet learning about it is just the part one of the deal, I think it’s way harder to keep yourself on track, keep up the attitude, especially if you aren’t always surrounded with like-minded people.
Thanks for taking the time to comment! Perhaps keeping ourselves on track is only hard if we make it hard. And I totally agree, about who you surround yourself with. That’s what so great about getting to choose who we put and keep in our lives. Love it!
“We are human BEings not human DOings” – love it! So young and so wise. 🙂
I can totally relate to this post, Ben. I’ve noticed rapid changes in my life the past year alone. As I’ve become more confident, optimistic, and giving (and thus HAPPIER), I’ve attracted some pretty darn wornderful people and opportunities into my life. On the flipside, I’ve had let some people go — people who could only relate to me as I was at a different stage in my life. The type of transformation that you describe can be difficult, but, in the end, it’s definitely for the best. I’m still working to improve my day-to-day BEing…and am inspired/motivated by your two most recent posts. Thaaaaaaaaaanks for the extra boost. You = rockstar.
Thanks for this wonderful reminder Ben!
I was recently introduced to this paradigm myself when reading the books by Neale Donald Walsch. It completely threw me for a loop. Another tip for anyone out there is.. if we have problems going directly to being “happy”, “successfull” or “fill in the blank”, we can start by giving the feeling we want to others. By giving to the world what we ourself want we will find magically that we had it to give all along and we start experience “having” it. But we can´t lie to the universe, we can´t give to others just in order to gain ourselves, it has to be sincere giving. But for some this way of arriving might be easier.
Keep it up!
Love it, absolutely! Keep on giving. 🙂
Great reminder Ben, did you borrow that from Landmark education? 😉
Thanks for commenting! No, I didn’t get it from Landmark, but I did do a program somewhat like it that re-emphasized its importance for me. 🙂